Friday, February 10, 2017

No More Faking Fine

Think for a moment about something painful that you've been carrying for a while.

Maybe it's something you had forgotten about until now. Or maybe it's an angst that has eaten at your soul 24/7 since it first reared its head.

Maybe it's a wrong someone did to you...something you grew up with...maybe it's a disability or a mental illness, a broken friendship, or a broken marriage. Maybe it's a sin you just can't let go of, or something you've tried to forgive fifty times, and fifty times the pain is still there. Maybe it's a dream your family never supported.

Maybe it's something you never acknowledged was a wound, because you thought someone else's wound was deeper or more legitimate.

Open up that wound, and come read this book with me.

Official Book Description
If you’ve ever been given empty clich├ęs during challenging times, you know how painful it can feel to be misunderstood by well-meaning people. Far too often, it seems the response we get to our hurt and disappointment is to suck it up, or pray it away.

But Scripture reveals a God who meets us where we are, not where we pretend to be.

No More Faking Fine is your invitation to get gut-level honest with God through the life-giving language of lament. Lament, a practice woven throughout Scripture, is a prayer that God never ignores, never silences, and never wastes. As author Esther Fleece says, “Lament is the unexpected pathway to true intimacy with God, and with those around us.”

Esther learned this the hard way, by believing she could shut down painful emotions that haunted her from a broken past she tried to forget on her fast track to success. But in silencing her pain, she robbed herself of the opportunity to be healed. Maybe you’ve done the same.

No More Faking Fine is your permission to lament—to give voice to the hurt, frustration, and disappointment you’ve kept inside and silenced for too long. Drawing from careful biblical study and hard-won insight, Esther reveals how to use God’s own language to draw closer to Him as He leads us through any darkness into His marvelous light.

My Thoughts 
I got this book one night when I was trying to work through a cocktail of hard things. One morning I read almost 1/3 of it, and the rest followed not too long after. It's the kind of book that you literally can't put down because it's a message of grief that just hasn't been offered in the same way before. And it is so needed for a bunch of dying, hurting, festering wounds that Christians are carrying around alone. 

Esther Fleece went through hard things in her childhood and was told to get over it. As a child, she determined that she would--and poured her soul into excelling at school and church. She was never vulnerable with anyone. After a while, she thought she had healed. Then God brought her to a grinding halt in the middle of a successful career, and she realized she hadn't healed at all. 

She had just coped with hard things and tried to move past them, lying to herself and others that she was doing fine. But God doesn't let us cope forever. He wants us to be a whole people (spiritually healthy), and we can only be whole when we face inner pain and go through the healing process. 

I cannot begin to express the grace contained in this book's pages--the absolute necessity of believers reading it. We must, must, must learn to pause in our pain--not to let busyness and life act as an anesthetic. God's people find wholeness by bringing their brokenness to him. I am finding more and more a holy discontent with coping, and a deeper desire to face, uncover things, and become healed. 

Part of being whole is lamenting your hard things. Even if that means leaving your job or your ministry and trusting God to provide so you have time to do that. 

Part of being whole is lamenting the pain you have undergone before you try to forgive someone. Or lamenting the pain you have caused in someone else's life. 

Part of being whole is lamenting the pain, and then going to God and lamenting again--as many times as you need to until the infection of pain is gone and a song of joy comes in its place. 

Part of being whole is lamenting in community, so that your lament doesn't consume you alone, and others can help carry the burden of the hurt you're undergoing. 

God will give you a new song. He will restore. But the strong emotions of anger and sadness and betrayal are not meant to be stuffed down somewhere in your soul and forgotten. They are designed to be brought to him, just like countless people did in the Psalms, so that you and he can grow closer together through every emotion you experience--not just the safe and pretty ones. Moses did that many times, and he was considered a meek man. 

Those are reminders I so desperately needed. I have some lamenting I need to do. I suspect a lot of us do--and I highly recommend getting this book to help with your own soul-healing. 

You can download a free study guide that offers some Scriptures and types of lament you might need to make. Just visit to get your own copy. 

I received a copy of this book from Book Look Bloggers. All opinions expressed are my own. 


  1. Wow, that sounds like a really good book. Thanks for sharing! :)

  2. I think that this is a book that I would really like to read. And own. And possibly mark in. I'm really glad that you shared it, and I'm thankful for all the things you share with us.

  3. Woah. Sounds like an amazing book that needs to be read!

  4. I read this book, and God pointed things out, I needed this book because the same, well most of it, I was going through.


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