Friday, March 3, 2017
Adorned, by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth
Women long for kindred spirits. Many of us have kindred spirits in our own age group, safe places to pour out our hearts to. But in the moments where we turn to our peers and say "I have no idea what to do," we long for someone older. More experienced. A Titus 2 friend.
Titus 2 friendships have dropped out of date and out of style, and women everywhere are suffering. I myself for long periods of time longed for an older friend who I could ask life questions and get some practical biblical answers. The Lord is providing in that area for me, but it's been a long, hard road full of tears and loneliness. There is no greater joy than a friendship that spans generations and experience.
I'm not the only one who needs this. Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth, in her newest book, Adorned, addresses the need for the church universal to pursue these Titus 2 relationships, and a Titus 2 lifestyle. And her book is for older women and for younger women together.
The Book (Description from book's cover)
The Titus 2 model of older women living out the gospel and training younger women to do the same is vital. It's how we all thrive, how we are adorned, and how we adorn the gospel...together.
Imagine older women investing themselves in the lives of younger women, blessing whole families and churches. Imagine younger women widening their circle to include women who've walked further down the road. Imagine women of all ages and seasons being transformed by the gospel, displaying its beauty, and making it believable to those around them.
This rich study of the instructions to women in Titus 2 provides a roadmap to help you experience the kind of community and influence God designed you to have in the church and the world.
This book could be divided into two key thoughts: how to live as a Titus 2 woman (kind, submissive to husband, loving husbands and children, self-controlled, etc.) and how to mentor others in a Titus 2 relationship. The book is packed with insight on how to live out each phrase of Titus 2--I went through with my pencil for brackets and underlining as I read.
The points that resonated with me as I read Nancy's book are having a sophron (healthy, self-controlled) mind, living a self-controlled, godly life that isn't addicted to things, and making sure my interactions with men are pure. Nancy gives helpful tips and illustrations from her life and lives of other women. I was able to take small action steps as I read her book to apply more healthy living in some of these areas--and I hope to be able to take more in the days to come. Whether you are an older woman or a younger woman, a woman at home or at work, this book is full of grace and community for all of us.
Most of all, as I read chapter after chapter about how to live as a Godly woman, I appreciated Nancy's spirit of gentleness, of encouragement and compassion in attitudes that she recognizes are difficult to achieve. Biblical thinking and living often require spiritual battle--and she encourages us not to fall into the mindset that we have to live life with gritted teeth, somehow forcing ourselves to live out these things--but by the grace of the Holy Spirit, who helps us bear this fruit. That lifts a load off this perfectionists' shoulders, because my tendency would be to take these principles too far and rely on my own strength.
For those of you who have done TrueWoman 201, you know that that study also delves into Titus 2 line by line, with Nancy Wolgemuth and Mary Kassian. Fear not--both studies are complementary and worth pursuing as individual books. I was afraid they would overlap too much, but they are separate, each rich with insight and well worth the read.
On Monday night I finished reading Adorned, and on Tuesday I had the joy of meeting Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth at a ministry event and having her autograph my book. It was the perfect way to celebrate The End! But I hope, too, that it's only The Beginning of living out the truths in its pages. Adorned will be a book I want to return to again and again, as I seek to live out the beauty of the Gospel in different seasons of life.
I received this book from Moody Publishers. All opinions expressed are my own.